by: Pree Dammond
It's not new news to learn that words are powerful. However, to understand fully how the use of your words can pour life into a relationship or destroy it is worth learning over and over again.
It's not far fetch to understand how your thoughts can become manifestations and how the Laws of Attraction work to uplift you into total life prosperity or bury you under pounds of toxic self inflicted in securities.
Words either direct or indirect are brain seeds that eventually grow in 2 ways in the mind. They either grow into secure principles and moral foundations; or they grow into little cancer cells that spread throughout your mind destroying any great thought that survives.
To gain a better understanding of words we first have to know the correct meaning and definition of those words. Many time couples use words out of context which further complicate their abilities to understand one another. The quick resolve to this is spending time with one another that is dedicated to teaching each other their vocabulary.
It is interesting to find out that due to the miss use of words or the misunderstanding of the use of words could cause so much drama in a typically good relationship. Spend time explaining to one another what key words mean to you.
It is an even greater idea that when attempting to resolve communication issue between men and women that the use of vocabulary remain very simple. In short, arguments or disagreements are not the time to show off how intellectual you are by the use of an extensive vocabulary.
K.I.S.S and make up. If "Keep it simple stupid" can consistently be taught to engineers in order to promote safety and more tolerable constructions then you can apply it too to save your relationship.
Words can be use to build people up or tear them down. Words can be used to plant seeds into your subliminal mind that motivate you to do good or evil. In short, words are definitely powerful.
Here's an example:
Scenario: Your man walks in from a tiresome day at the office and says I don't know how long I can take this crazy boss?
2 different answers from woman:
1. Woman walks over to man and rubs the back of his neck and says, Honey you are the best man I know. I am confident in your ability to change your situations at work for the benefit of you and your family. <---> The use of words here are powerful in motivating positive change while boosting good self esteem in her man through faith not just in him but in herself to be ability to help change his situation indirectly.
2. Woman says, Baby I don't know what you're going to do either but I know these bills aren't going to stop coming so you better deal with it. < ---> The use of these words are very weak here and promote nothing positive. In fact, the use of these words only piggy backs on his initial uneasiness and concerns at work which doesn't create creative thinking in her man.
In summary, words have specific meanings so use them in the context they were design to be used. I would suggest that you pay attention daily of your use of words and how they directly and indirectly effect others around you.
To become a better conversing civilization, we have to install a sense of responsibility for one another and our words. It's not about self but how empowering those around you, will make YOU (the new product of your environment) a better person in a better place in your relationship.